Recently I ran into a couple scenarios that just annoyed the heck out of me, that I don't want to share any more info with that person, due to the negative reactions I got. I'll create a fictional but based on real life scenario below. Trust me, there's a lesson for everyone at the end.
I have been going to the same barber for 20+ years. I know this barber is a bit expensive, ($25 for a haircut, vs the really cheap ones at like $8), esp. when you add some tip, but I don't really have to give any instructions or such. The guy and his wife (also a barber) know me.
Anyway, ran into an acquaintance, who's a known miser, yet constantly ran out of money and had to borrow $30 from me. He paid me back, and I remarked, "Good, I just spent $30 on my haircut" since I also noticed he's sporting a new do as well.
For the next five full minutes I get non-stop tsk-tsk about how I am wasting my money, his haircut was only 8 bucks, are you made of money, I make a lot more than you do yet so you're so spendy, you clearly don't need the money so can I borrow that $30 again, he got a free hair wash with that $8 too what a bargain, blah blah blah. Had he and I were not meeting more friends for lunch I would have ditched him right there.
The harangue did not stop once other friends arrived and lunch started. He started replaying the entire "lecture" to every acquaintance within hearing distance, and he's not a quiet guy. "Oh, can you believe So-and-So spent $30 on a haircut? I only spend $8!" You can probably hear him a couple tables away.
I normally were not a cheerful guy, but I can hold a conversation in a group setting, do the social smalltalk, and so on. I am just not a social butterfuly, like the miser thought he was. But when I've been made the topic and the butt of the joke, I am sulking inside, starting to regret knowing this guy, and vowed never to talk to this guy again, and if I see him coming toward me I'd jaywalk to the other side of the street.
So what's the takeaway?
Don't be a tattle-tale.
Miser may have thought he was offering useful advice or being helpful, but once he got started he failed to notice my counter-remark "I've been going there for years." And instead of leaving this between us, he turned it into a conversation topic with other people and I was made into a butt of a joke.
Now that's just mean, and childish, and he's probably not even aware he's doing it. He's socially oblivious yet thought he's going sociable.
Next time you receive some info, consider the context it was given. Don't be so quick to criticize, then repeat it to every acquaintance within reach. Not every piece of info you receive is meant to be replicated public knowledge, and you're not a broadcaster / newsreader (unless you actually are).
Share something about yourself instead, not something you just learned about someone else.
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